The big decision lots of couples are asking themselves is whether to spend it together or stick to tradition and sleep apart. It really is entirely up to you. There isn't a rule that says you have to but here's what's most important: that you relax. You'll want to rest up so you're totally prepared for your wedding.
Superstitious beliefs have kept many a couple separated until the ceremony, protecting their matrimonial fate from being doomed from the start. The tradition of spending the wedding eve apart is when to-be-weds refrain from seeing one another the night before their wedding, often until the ceremony.
Having a rehearsal dinner is a great way to celebrate some of those memories the night before your wedding. This might be when you give your parents and/or bridal party their gifts or a perfect time to give a speech and toast those who've helped the most in your planning process.
6 Things Every Groom Must Do the Night Before the Wedding
- Avoid drinking too much. If you and your buddies love drinking, consider dialing it back during this night. ...
- Eat the right food. ...
- Give gifts to your groomsmen. ...
- Spend time with your parents. ...
- Prepare everything you need for tomorrow. ...
- Get a good night's sleep.
Call it bad luck or superstition, but not seeing one another before the ceremony can make that first moment as you walk down the aisle even more special. But the tradition has less-than-romantic origins. Arranged marriages used to be the norm, serving more as a business deal between families than a love match.
The rehearsal dinner usually takes place the night before the wedding. However, some couples decide to have the rehearsal dinner two nights before the wedding to give family and friends a chance to recuperate before the big day. The rehearsal dinner is a chance for families to spend time together in a relaxed setting.
The wedding night, also most popularly known as 'suhaag raat', is when newly-weds are expected to consummate their marriage and for many couples, who had never had a physical relationship before, this night might be the first time they would be having sex with the partner.
The tradition of not seeing the bride for 24 hours, or possibly just the night before the wedding, stems from an ancient tradition of the bride not showing her face to the groom at all before they were married, something that very few Australian couples would consider today!
A rehearsal dinner is typically held the night before a wedding, and like the name suggests, is a rehearsal to the following day's events. This dinner is a great opportunity for both the bride and groom's family and friends to mingle and spend some quality time with the couple before the actual wedding.
A very common wedding superstition to this day is that the groom mustn't see the bride before the wedding. This emerged from a time when arranged marriages were commonplace, and was practiced to ensure the groom would go through with the marriage regardless of the bride-to-be's identity or appearance.
You've probably heard that it's bad luck to see your fiancé on the wedding day before your ceremony. The reason being that, back when marriages were arranged, the bride and groom weren't allowed to see or meet each other at all until they were at the altar.
Generally speaking, most brides will need about 30 to 45 minutes from when they step into their wedding dress until they're ready to walk out the door. If that sounds like a lot to you, remember that you're dressing, accessorising, and stopping for a few photos in the process.
The tradition is based on an Old English rhyme that dates back to 19th-century Lancashire. It describes the items a bride should have on her wedding day: "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, a sixpence in your shoe."
Going For An Evening Stroll
Many couples used to take time after dinner to stroll around town. So if you and your partner are looking for an easy way to bond, consider adding this to your nighttime routine. As you meander down the sidewalk, you'll naturally focus on the moment and being with each other.
According to a new WeddingWire survey of over 350 recently-married couples, nearly 40 percent of newlyweds had sex on their wedding night (and 22 percent of brides donned special lingerie for the occasion).
Myth: You have to wear something
You know I love lingerie, but if wearing absolutely nothing at all is how you want to celebrate your first night with your beloved, I say go with that. There is no rule that says “wedding night attire” must actually be apparel.
Both the groom's parents traditionally organize (and pay for) the rehearsal dinner. This can range in size from a small occasion for members of the wedding party only to a grand soiree (never to outdo the wedding, of course) that includes half or more of the wedding guests.
Why does the bride stand on the left in the ceremony? The bride stands on the left side of the altar in most Western and Eastern cultures. This position is chosen because it is the position of honor. The tradition of standing on the left can be seen in many cultures, but it's not universal to all cultures or religions.
There will always be exceptions to the "rules," (i.e. friends across the country who want to throw you a party, etc.), but usually two to three showers are enough. Any more and it will appear you are just making a grab for gifts.